anti-social social butterfly
A term that is used when a social butterfly has been put into enough situations or trauma to become anti-social. This means they want to be social but feel like they can't or shouldn't for several reasons. Normally you might need to invite them or ask if they want to go somewhere, other than them going themselves.
Person 1: Hey where is Mark, didn't he want to come to the party?
Person 2: Why didn't you invite him, You know he is an anti-social social butterfly.
Person 1: Oh I forgot about that, I will invite him next time.
Person 2: Why didn't you invite him, You know he is an anti-social social butterfly.
Person 1: Oh I forgot about that, I will invite him next time.