Hold Your Own Nuts
When someone is using you, your name, or your cause to advance their own agenda instead of standing on their own without you they are not "holding their own nuts" and are holding someone else's nuts. Telling someone to "hold your own nuts" mean to stand on their own two feet--not stand on the shoulders of others.
Similar saying: "Pull yourself up by your own bootstraps".
Similar saying: "Pull yourself up by your own bootstraps".
She likes to use my name and accomplishments to gain favor for her own agenda. I told her , "Hold your own nuts"!