nigger paradox
When the only way you can get a black persons respect is to be extremely cool and nice to them. Which, in return, they take advantage of the niceness and you're back where you started. This mainly applies to adults/teachers.
My principal was a good principal. He only went wrong when he started befriending everyone. All the black kids now saw him as a peer and not a figure of authority, thus taking advantage of him and causing him to get fired. The nigger paradox. If you don't befriend them, they dont respect you. When you do befriend them, they take advantage of you. It never works out.