pre-stood up
When your friends forget to tell you about an event or party and then ask you why you didn't show up. You're stood up before you even get a chance to stand them up.
John C: Where were you on Monday?
Jen: What are you talking about?
John C: I thought you were going to come hang out with us.
Jen: You bastard you totally pre-stood up me.
Jen: What are you talking about?
John C: I thought you were going to come hang out with us.
Jen: You bastard you totally pre-stood up me.