vanilla dom
(n.) - A vanilla dom, sometimes referred to as a “vanilla top” or “vanilla dom top,” is a dominant subtype in the BDSM lexicon. It’s usually associated withIn the gay male community, but not exclusively. Vanilla doms are generally characterized by sexual arousal and identity related to dominant behavior, sexual top position and traditional sexual roles within the gender binary. What makes them unique to the broader LGBT/BDSM community is their openness to monogamy and trend to a more heteronormative approach to relationships and life. They’re generally attracted submissive, smooth, younger partners. While it’s not absolute, generally they avoid classic (clamps, paddles, chains) BDSM gear, multiple partners, circuit parties, PNP, etc. Often they are high earners and avoid drugs and alcohol and value fitness, health and industriousness.
Look at that fit daddy. He must be a vanilla dom.
Vanilla Dom
A person that pretends to be a Dom to get laid but are in reality, not actually into anything very kinky. They are generally not dangerous like the fake doms, just annoying and wildly disappointing. These people think the kink community equals easy to get laid. There can also be vanilla subs and Vanilla Dommes.
"He says he's a Dom but only seems to want sex and thinks flogging is abusive? He must be a vanilla dom."