Cotton Ceiling
A term used by some trans MtF people to present lesbians' lack of attraction to them as prejudice. Often, it is used to shame them into relationships, completely ignoring the fact that lesbians are same-sex attracted.
This same concept, except involving transmen and gay men, is referred to as the boxer ceiling.
This same concept, except involving transmen and gay men, is referred to as the boxer ceiling.
A transgirl on a lesbian dating app blamed the cotton ceiling after my friend Leila decided not to go on a date with her. I don't think Leila is in the wrong because her same-sex attraction is valid, plus she is not obliged to date anyone.
Cotton Ceiling
Term used by transwomen to lament the fact that no one on earth wants to have sex with them.
"So Fluffy, now that you're a 'woman,' I presume you're finally getting some action from lesbians?"
"Damnit no Frank--I've hit the cotton ceiling--hell, not even my right hand wants anything to do with me anymore."
"Damnit no Frank--I've hit the cotton ceiling--hell, not even my right hand wants anything to do with me anymore."
cotton ceiling
The term cotton ceiling refers to the difficulty trans people experience when seeking lesbian and gay relationships, and in lesbian and gay social spaces more generally. A play on the similar term "glass ceiling", the term was coined by Canadian trans woman and activist Drew DeVeaux.
The cotton ceiling, in short, makes the point that there are certain cis lesbians who are using their sexuality as a way to deny trans women’s womanhood. It’s not about coercing them, it’s not about saying you can’t have sex with only people you want to have sex with, its not about corrective rape or conversion therapy. It’s literally just a name for the concept of using your sexuality as a way of denying trans women’s womanhood; ie “I would never have sex with a trans woman, I’m a lesbian and don’t like men”.