cryptoqueer
Describes human sexuality where the actual nature of one's attractions and fantasies is a closely-guarded secret, even from one's self. It is thought to describe the natural state of most human adults.
A: I think Joe might be gay.
B: Who knows? Even Joe probably doesn't know. Like most of us, he's a cryptoqueer.
B: Who knows? Even Joe probably doesn't know. Like most of us, he's a cryptoqueer.